Thursday

20 Naughty Love New Year’s Resolutions

Here are twenty totally do-able New Year’s resolutions to improve your love life in 2011.
Learn them, live them, love them!

1. Ask for what you want.
2. Keep learning new things.
3. Let go of shame.
4. Be a stickler about safer sex.
5. Go for quality rather than quantity.
6. Don’t hold grudges in your relationship.
7. Believe in love (and lust) at first sight.
8. Think outside the box.
9. Consider the possibilities of household items (neckties, spatulas, etc).
10. Drop the routine.
11. Complain less.
12. Compliment more.
13. Do your Kegels (men too!).
14. Send (more) love texts.
15. Send (more) dirty texts (but no images!).
16. Invest in at least one high quality sex toy.
17. Reciprocate.
18. Make out like you did in high school.
19. Vow never to use Facebook, Twitter or texting as a means for breaking up.
20. Watch less TV.

Sunday

Top 10 Myths About Sex

There is a lot of sex talk out there, but there are just as many fallacies finding their way between the sheets as there are truths. Now we all know that the size of a man’s appendage versus his outer extremities (hand, head, foot) has no proven correlation, and nor does the act of self-gratification stand to make one go blind. There are however several myths that have not been publicly chastised for their ridiculous nature, and often are still believed to be truth rather than fiction. Let’s look at these top ten myths about sex.

10. A Cold Shower Dashes the Libido

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A cold shower has been said to curb peak sexual appetite, simply by reducing the amount of testosterone levels in men and estrogen levels in women. There is simply no proven basis for this belief, and in fact, an English study for Thrombosis has shown that a cold shower actually stimulates libido by increasing hormone levels. The end result is even more sexual excitement than was first started with. Take heart all ye anxious ladies and gentlemen, as I hear a ball peen hammer and wooden plank still does wonders for destroying ones sexual appetite!

9. The Power of a Lover’s Stare

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The power of a lover’s stare has been written in romance novels ever since an ink pen was first laid to a piece of parchment. True lovers have been said to have the ability to stare into each others eyes for hours on end, falling in love again and again, without ever growing tired. However, what has actually been found in studies, is that staring at your lover has about a 50/50 chance of promoting feelings of love and passion. The other fifty percent of the time it promotes aggression and annoyance, which has been documented in couple studies as fighting and arguing. I guess it is true… all’s fair in love and war!

8. Sex During the Final Stages of Pregnancy

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A lot of expecting couples express fear of hurting their baby during intercourse. Especially during the final trimester. However, most research today not only shows that intercourse is completely safe for the child, it actually can promote a healthier, speedier labor and delivery. It is an old wives tale that sex is bad for the fetus once it is past a certain stage of growth. Many doctors say that you should be able to have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner right up until the day of delivery. Chalk much of this myth up to man’s over-exaggeration of his unit!

7. Thinking of Someone Else During Sex is a Bad Sign for a Relationship

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Did you know that upwards of 90% of all sexually active folk in the world think about someone else during sex with their partner. It is actually a completely natural part of a healthy sexual relationship. The majority of folks think about friends, neighbors, or co-workers, while a slightly smaller percentage (25% of Canadian men) prefer fantasizing about imaginary characters. Everything from Betty Boop to the Lone Ranger has run through the minds of countless lovers over the decades, and should not be considered an indicator that a relationship is heading for the rocks.

6. Women and Fast Cars (Modern Myth)

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If you were to ask a woman today if she was turned-on by the growl of a big engine, she would probably scoff at the thought. In fact, in light of the popular green movement, it is now popular for women to prefer men who drive environmentally-friendly vehicles, such as the Toyota Prius. However, a recent study says differently… a lot differently. It turns out, women show substantial increases in sexual arousal (measured by testosterone in saliva) while listening to the sound of a high performance Maserati, as compared to a low performance Volkswagen (VW) Polo. In fact, the VW actually decreased the arousal of women below that of the baseline of watching the nerdy scientists test their equipment before the study began. Talk about an anti-aphrodisiac!

5. Inbreeding Produces Babies with Three Heads

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While considered a bit of a joke, inbreeding has been said to cause everything from a baby with three heads to mutant X-Men. In truth, while inbreeding should not necessarily be considered a good thing, it is not nearly as bad as some people think. A 30-year Western Australian study, looked at cultures who regularly practice first cousin marriages and found no abnormalities in their offspring beyond that of what would be expected from any other traditional, unrelated couple. The same myth also applies to inbreed animals, who are not always the weaker of the species.

4. Race is a Good Indicator of a Man’s Sexual Endowment

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While some races have enjoyed basking in the limelight of these rumors, there is actually no scientific basis of this myth. While your cousin’s friend, who knew a girl, who dated several professional basketball players claims this myth maybe true, a study from the Porterback Clinic, Royal Hallamshire Hospital, and St. James’ Hospital, says differently. The study found that a man’s physical endowment had absolutely nothing to do with his race, creed, or color. It’s has much more to do with that haphazard toss of the genetic die that came soon after that glimmer from our parents eye.

3. Plentiful Sex and the Swinging Single

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While it is common belief that once you get married, sex gets thrown out the window, most research suggests that married couples actually have more sex than the swinging single. This is mostly because couples living together are presented with more opportunities to have sex. Anywhere from 25 to 300 percent more opportunity for sex, on average. However, over the course of marriage, sex dwindles, leaving the frequency of sex comparable to that of a lifetime of living single. One way to improve your odds of having more sex, is to marry multiple times. However, the stress of all those marriages/divorces just might toss you right into an early grave, leaving you with even less sex!

2. Sex Every Seven Seconds

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The common belief by many women, is that men think about sex at least once every seven seconds. Truth is, men today are actually too weighed down with thoughts of success and finances to devote that kind of brain power to the subject. In fact, only half of men (54 percent) think about sex once per day according to the Kinsey Institute, while the other 43 percent designate just a few fantasies spread out over the course of a week. An abysmal 4 percent think about just once over the course of an entire month. Talk about a grossly overinflated female-chauvinistic rumor.

1. Premature Ejaculation (PE) is an Abnormality

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No man has ever been proud to be deemed a “premature ejaculator” by his lover, but in truth it is more of a hardwired system for survival, than an abnormality. The average male can last 5.4 minutes before lift-off, which was biologically pertinent to the population of the planet back in the early days. When faced with man-eating chickens, men had to get the job done quick. There was no time for flowers, song, and love poems. The threat of a Tyrannosaurus charging while in the throes of passion, was enough to make him even quicker, which is why anxiety is still one of the leading causes of PE.

Friday

5 Ways to Suggest Sex to a Friend

How do you turn a casual friendship with your guy friend into one that includes no-strings-attached...

He’s always there for you when you’re feeling low, he’s the one who drops you home when you and your pals go partying and he’s ready to be your back-up plan for the weekend when your date cancels.

So, don’t you think your friend needs to be promoted to the friends-with-benefits category? If you think he has the potential, here’s how you can initiate sex:

Gauge the situation
You don’t want to be turned down and make the situation awkward for both of you. So, think this through before you give him those signals. If he’s got a girlfriend or you know he’s not the type to engage in casual flings, respect him for his integrity and don’t make a move unless you really have strong feelings for him.

Get him drunk
If you think he’s game for it, then what better way to get rid of his inhibitions than getting him wasted! Take him out and show him a good time. Say drinks are on you and soon he’ll soon be staggering into your arms.

Send him a corny message
When he’s a good enough friend, you can get away with anything, even the ‘No one really understands me except you’ rubbish. Those little I’m-thinking-about-you texts will subtly let him know that you’re an available option.

Plan a weekend date at home
But don’t let him know it’s a date!  As he makes himself comfortable on your couch, inform him that a girlfriend who was supposed to join you has cancelled at the last moment. So it’ll only be you, him and the very, very scary movie. Add a blanket for comfort and things are bound to get hot and heavy!

Make your intentions clear
Lay your cards on the table as soon as you know you’re heading to the bedroom with him. If this is a one-off encounter for you, make sure his intentions are not nobler. You don’t want to break his heart if he’s dreaming of walking down the aisle with you.

Even if all the rules are laid down and he is up for sex, tread with care. With sex come plenty of repercussions - you don’t want to ruin a good friendship.

Wednesday

Have Thanksgiving for Sex

In true Thanksgiving tradition, unbutton your pants. Because you won’t be needing them after you read about all the dirty, flirty, nasty, and naughty things women are most thankful for this year.

While others have been planning a turkey supper, we’ve been planning a sexy feast, gathering dozens of real women at our table to tell us what they love most about getting down to business with you. Sure, it’s not polite Thanksgiving dinner conversation, but it beats listening to Grandpa rant about the price of milk.

The best part is, we’re going to tell you how to take everything these appreciative ladies say and put it to good use in bed. You can thank us later.

Lay Dates
On this time-honored American holiday, many women are raising a glass to the sexy traditions they’ve started in the sack. For example, each week 31-year-old Trish* and her fiancĂ© celebrate “Screwsday,” in which they try a new sex move every Tuesday. “We started doing it because we were in a rut and wanted to bone outside our comfort zone,” she says. “We’ve discovered things we didn’t think we’d like, such as adding restraints. Of course, there are also totally awkward things I learned that I don’t enjoy—like seeing him in a priest frock for role play. But overall I really look forward to our weekly experiment.”

Rachel, 26, and her boyfriend like to observe real holidays with kinky customs. On Bastille Day she dressed up like a French maid and made l’amour while spouting dirty French phrases. On Columbus Day they borrowed his father’s sailboat and did it at sea. “When you turn holidays into sexy occasions, you want to celebrate all of them—even the silly ones,” she says. “My friends never understand why I get so excited for Arbor Day.”

Show your gratitude: Create a sexy ritual with your lady that forces you to switch up your sexual routine. (Yes, Threesome Thursdays would be great, but try to make it about just the two of you.) If you work near each other, how about a designated day for lunchtime quickies? Is she artsy-fartsy? Suggest a regular body-painting session. Whatever you do, don’t do it too often or for too long—the last thing she wants is a sexual tradition that feels as surprising and arousing as laundry night.

Electric Dreams
While there’s no substitute for a man, several women expressed gratitude for the technological advancements that fill in when no guy is around. “I couldn’t live without my vibrators,” says 32-year-old Melissa, who bought her first vibe 10 years ago and has since amassed a collection of eight.

“They all have varied speed settings, and one has a couple of fun add-ons for extra stimulation.
I definitely like to use them with guys, too—the combined effect brings my orgasms to a whole new level.”

Other gals pay homage to the technology not in their nightstand drawer but online. “Skype has saved my relationship by allowing me to have long-distance sex with my boyfriend, who’s working in London for a year,” says Annie, 27. “It’s not only a million times cheaper than long-distance phone sex; it’s hotter because there’s a visual. The first time we did it, I was able to give him a real striptease instead of lying there in my pj’s pretending to be naked.”

Show your gratitude: Surprise her with a gizmo that will amplify your talents with a supersexy buzz. (Jimmyjane sells a range of models, from a simple $16 bullet to a $35 vibrating ring to the double-headed Form 2, $135, which won an award at this year’s AVNs.) If you’re feeling extra bold, ask her to use it while you watch on Skype. As you’re probably aware, you don’t need to be long-distance to watch a lady pleasure herself online.

The Best Parts
Not surprisingly, many women boiled down their love of sex to a love of self—specifically, their lovely lady lumps. After all, what’s not to like? “My boobs are super sensitive, so I love having them fondled and sucked,” says 29-year-old Julia of her natural C cups. “When my boyfriend squeezes my nipples while he’s going down on me, I’m in total ecstasy.” Meanwhile, Megan, a 31-year-old Pilates devotee, loves the firm yet round behind her exercise routine has created. “I'm always dying for a guy to grab my ass during sex,” she says. “Smack it, spank it—enjoy it. That’s why I’m in the gym five days a week!”

When it comes to the male anatomy, women are ever grateful for your equipment (“I could play with my boyfriend’s dick all day,” says Tami, 20). But there are even more utilitarian muscles that turn us on, too. “I love my guy’s arms,” says 25-year-old Krista. “Not because I’m into beefy dudes but because he’s so strong. My favorite thing is when he picks me up while we’re doing it and then stands up.” And for Ellie, 23, there’s nothing better than when her boyfriend gives her the finger. “His digits can bend to touch super-sensitive areas like my G-spot,” she says. “It makes me feel like he’s really exploring my body.”

Show your gratitude: It’s all about the F-word—that is, foreplay. Devote one night a week to a different part of your girlfriend’s body and ask her to do the same for you. (There must be something other than your member that craves her attention.) Linger there for 20 to 30 minutes, taking periodic detours to other sensitive bits so that no area goes untouched. When you both can’t take it anymore, move on to the other F-word.

Fully Poseable
Many women we spoke with were thankful not just for our bodies but for everything they can do—like the reverse pile driver! But even the most devoted yogis in the group confessed that sometimes classic sex positions are the most erotic. “Missionary is the best,” says Janelle, 22. “It lets my clit and my vagina get the most simultaneous action—which is pretty much the only way
I can orgasm during sex. Plus, it kind of takes me back to losing my virginity.”

Still others traveled back even farther in time when asked about their favorite sexual escapades. “My boyfriend and I have make-out-only nights where we just roll around and rub against each other, never taking off our undies,” says Mary, 33. “I don’t know what position you’d call it—dry humping?—but it’s totally reminiscent of junior high and gets us supercharged for the next time, when we actually go ‘all the way.’ ”

But by far the sex act that received the most praise was oral. “I’m hugely thankful for any man who loves going down,” says 25-year-old Collette. “Nothing makes me feel sexier or
come faster. I also love 69-ing—turns me into a porn star.”

Show your gratitude: Pick up a translated Kama Sutra (see: The Pocket Idiot’s Guide to the Kama Sutra)—the ancient Sanskrit screed that everyone thinks is about crazy pretzel-twisty versions of exotic and alien sex acts. While the guide does contain some wacky suggestions, it mostly focuses on maximizing the mind-blowing potential of positions you already know(missionary, woman on top). Bypass the spiritual hooey and take away the key info: where to put your bodies so you both get the most explosive O’s. Then settle in for a long holiday nap; this stuff is even better than tryptophan.

Sunday

How to rev up your sex life

CoupleThe importance of sex in a relationship, especially a few years after marriage, is underrated and most couples have no clue as to just why and when it happens.

According to The Daily Telegraph, Denise Donnelly at Georgia State University believes that the sooner men and women start asking questions the sooner their situation might return to those passion-rich days of old. A sexless union may come about for many reasons, including a combination of any of the following.

It could be that:

A couple never had a lot of sex to begin with;

A specific event led to no sex, for example, the birth of a child or an affair;
Lovers are juggling too much between family, career, and other life demands;
Low sex drive due to physiological, mental, or relational factors;
A partner is uncomfortable with sex or his/her body and/or sexual skills and many more.
So how does one resuscitate the sex in their relationship?
"By taking care of the sex bit, one must attend to other matters as well. An action plan should include the following," said sex expert Dr Yvonne Fulbright.
1. Be introspective. You need to start with yourself, asking some tough questions on how your relationship got to this point. Items to consider include: What does the lack of sex indicate? Could it be that you're not a good match? Has your relationship reached its expiration date? Or, is there a much bigger problem to tackle outside of the bedroom?
2. Talk about your sex life and relationship. In doing so, you want to raise awareness without blaming or sulking. Simply point out what's going on without issuing ultimatums or making threats. Let your partner know that you want to talk about what can be done to fix things.
3. Only worry about yourselves. Don't allow yourselves to feel abnormal or unhealthy for not having sex, as society tends to make us feel. Don't put pressure on yourselves when it comes to having an "ideal" amount of sex.
4. Plan for a break. Get sex off of the back burner by making time for it on a regular basis. While the occasional vacation can be just what the doctor ordered, seek to take time off from work (and send any kids away) to be alone at home. Balance this with efforts to connect outside of the bedroom and in non-sexual ways.
5. Seek professional help to establish or re-establish communication. Working with a therapist or counsellor is great to establish a safe environment. Such a professional can help you to reach your goals, examine the reasons for a lack of motivation, and face past and present influences that are contributing to the situation.
"Such data should be plenty of incentive to end this sexual starvation. Let it go any longer, and one becomes weaker with greater frustration, feelings of isolation, and lower self-esteem," Fulbright added.

Tuesday

Bad Sex Moves

23 Bad Sex Moves
(written by: Simcha Whitehill)

After over a decade of my own slut baggery, I’ve come up with 23 downright horrible lame guy sex moves. Here’s what I’ve learned while piling up the food at the man buffet. It’s nice to think my exploits will somehow benefit mankind ...

1. Hassling me about using a condom.
2. Not even trying to get my bra off.
3. Hanging a mirror next to your bed so you can watch yourself.
4. Making so much noise I nearly pop a vocal chord trying to fake an orgasm.
5. Forgetting to clip those daggers you call toe nails.
6. Putting in porn you know I don’t like.
7. Getting so bossy with sex directions I feel like your dick is a piece of Ikea furniture I’m trying to put together.
8. Not stopping when I say “ouch,” “stop,” “don’t” or our safe word—“Ruth Buzzi.”
9. Suggesting my best friend would make for the perfect threesome.
10. Being totally closed off from the idea of incorporating sex toys.
11. Expecting me to do all the work on top.
12. Saying my body is a “wonderland” or other cheeseballs.
13. Grabbing me by my ears or pushing my head.
14. Being too gentle; I’m not made of porcelain.
15. Not reciprocating foreplay.
16. Skipping foreplay altogether.
17. Licking me like a dog.
18. Trying to sexy roar like a lion.
19. Jack hammering.
20. Not showering.
21. Not asking what I like.
22. “Accidentally” slipping it in my butt.
23. Asking to me to masturbate when you’re too lazy to finish the job you started.

Friday

10 Things A Woman Should Know - Kaya

We list 10 things every woman should know by Kaya Clinic.

1. Calling you does not mean we are hitting on you
Most men are left wondering that why’s it that just because he called you, you assumed he wants you to fill in the post of his girlfriend. He may actually just want to hang out with you.

2. You are much prettier without all that makeup
Your basic foundation and kajal is fine, but layers upon layers of makeup only makes you unappealing to your guy. So keep it simple.

3. When you act giggly, it’s seriously embarrassing
When you spot your gang of girls while you are out with your boyfriend, don’t squeal and go giggly or jump up and down. Most men find it extremely childish.

4. Gossiping, whispering and writing notes makes you look shallow
When you pass notes or whisper when you and your friends are sitting at a table along with others makes it seem like you are still in your classroom.

5. Boys worry about what you think of their hair, skin, weight and clothes
Do tell your boyfriend if you think his new haircut makes him look cute or if his favourite T-shirt needs to be done away with.

6. PMS is no excuse to be mean
Yes, men do understand that every month you are likely to get crabby for a few days, but that’s not reason enough to be mean and cranky all the time.

7. Talking about your butt is boring
It’s a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn’t want to be dumped — will ever tell his girfriend that she is looking fat. So no in point discussing, arguing and then discussing some more, about weight issues with your boyfriend.

8. Tight clothes make you look sort of desperate and insecure
You may be in shape but anything that amounts to too much skin show is not going to be appreciated by your boyfriend. Don’t keep showing how desperate you are. It can be a big put off if the guy is serious about you.

9. Most boys are looking for the right girl
It’s not just women who are looking for Mr Right, but boys are looking out for their Miss Perfect too. So don’t be scared to play the love game.

10. If you like him, just tell him
Don’t pretend to ignore him and then cry when he asks another girl out for dinner. If he’s interested in you, and if you feel the same way then respond. Don’t keep the guy waiting too long.

Thursday

Science Of Touching A Woman

Kinesthetics (Kino) Noun - the ability to feel sensation or movements of limbs and muscles.

Kino from the Player’s point of view is simply ‘the art of touching.’ Psychological studies show that casual touching during a friendly conversation causes people to remember the conversation more fondly.
How does it help?

First off, one of the first things our body needs other than food, water and air is human to human interaction. It’s what keeps our sanity - remember Mr. Wilson from Cast Away! Instinctively we need to feel the presence, the touch of another person. The combination of kino with psychological proof is dynamite. Practicing Kino helps to:
* Acts as an icebreaker
* Shows confidence / establishes Alpha Male status
* Stimulates the person you’re trying to attract
* Breaks sexual barriers

Though a lot of you are relating Kino to sexual interaction, it’s much more than that. How many of your guys only land up saying just a “Hi” to women, even your female friends and acquaintances. Kino is a way of establishing your social status, showing how comfortable you are around women. Women tend to pick up on such signals subconsciously.

Touch one girl and the other girls seeing this think its normal or even "good" to be touchy-feely with you. Now you can quite naturally move on to touching those other girls and so forth.

Basic Kino Moves
I personally use Kino all the time, and overtime it’s become a habit and comes naturally. TOUCH HER!!! It doesn't matter if you just met her. Hold her hand, rub her arm, her elbow her back, her shoulders, her hair, her face. TOUCH HER!!! The trick is to do this in a non-threatening-way, that is, not like the desperate perverts we all are. Leave the ASF (average frustrated chump) in you at home. Also, it is VERY VERY important to pay attention to how she responds to you! This will help you adjust (increase/decrease) the level of Kino you’re to apply.

Picture this scenario- you’re in a hallway, on your way to class, a meeting, or what have you, and you walk past a woman and say hey. You introduce yourself to her. While you’re talking, making her laugh, busting some cocky/funny and showing her your alpha status, you touch her arm as you say a joke or say something funny, or maybe you touch her shoulder as you leave.

Do the things that lovers do - brush off "something" that's stuck in her hair, gently stroke her cheek pretending to wipe off an eyelash etc. These are the types of things lovers do and by doing them, you will make her feel (doesn't even matter if only subconsciously) like you were her lover. Believe it or not, in that very casual, everyday situation, that little touch can stimulate her to remember you.

Starting Early
At any stage of a relationship its important to start Kino early. The trick is to hide completely any interest you might have for the girl AND at the same time you act really touchy/huggish (note the omission of the word ‘feely’). The problem is - you have to start this early in the "friend" relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise she'll wonder "what the fuck is he doing lately?" Once you've developed a distant/awkward relationship with a girl, it’s hard to bring on that kind of flirtatious friendship.

Kino as soon as meet a girl. Meeting someone for the first time is an excellent chance for starting Kino - shaking hands when exchanging names is a tradition of many cultures, but make sure you hold on to her hand longer than expected, long enough for her to notice, if not her noticing it but at least you not letting go as quickly as people usually do.

When meeting girls you already know, shaking hands might seem strange, so giving some sort of a hug is the way to go. You don't need to fall all over her to give her a hug, a hug can also be putting your arm around her waist or shoulders when standing to her left or right and pulling her closer for a moment, or taking her hand for a moment - but not shaking it.
Making Her Comfortable

Continue the Kino routine even as you progress with the girl - say on a date. If you continue to give her all the right signals and paying attention to how she’s responding to them - eventually she will become VERY comfortable with you touching her, and she will soon become very comfortable with touching you. The idea is to establish a little physical intimacy without venturing into the sexual undertones associated with it. Friends touch each other. Relatives touch each other. Don’t give her any overtly lingering touches i.e. don’t feel her up. Just be casual about it in those early stages to make her comfortable with you.

Set the mood from the start. When going on a date/get-together, establish the mood immediately. You can of course change the mood from "polite and calm" to "warm and friendly" to "aroused and sweaty" during the course of the meeting, but why go the hard way, if you can jump right into "warm and friendly" or beyond in the first place. It is best to have acting enthusiastic upon meeting the girl. Be all smiles when you meet her, give her a big hug right away, try to take and hold her hand and leaving it whenever opportunity arises - and watch her change from slightly nervous to happy, smiling, starry-eyed and glowing all over. Remember - enthusiasm is contagious.

Creating Kino Situations
“I’m sure you suck at thumb wrestling.” Walking towards an acquaintance you find hot, raise your hand and say - Hi 5! She will most likely give you a high five as its extremely impersonal and non-threatening to her. Once given, you say “that’s a lousy Hi-5, I’m sure you’re no good at thumb wrestling either?”
She will have either of the two responses: “Of course I am” OR “what’s thumb wrestling?”
At this point, take her hand in yours in thumb-wrestling position and begin.

Whatever you do, don’t loose! If the girl is good at it beat her by cheating - take your index finger and wrap it around her thumb and pull it down. Cheating can be fun too because you can (playfully) argue about it and tease her for the rest of the night.

“Cant hear you.” If she says something, lean forward as if you cant her her very well, and touch her arm or back and bring your face close to hers. After she speaks, lean back immediately but casually and answer.

Pushing Her. This is one of the easiest Kino trick out there. She says something you don’t like (or you pretend you don’t like) push her and say “you little shit!” Always remember, playfully. If you’re walking side by side you can just slowly nudge her into random things. If you keep doing it, she’ll start pushing back. Keep the pushing to level surfaces, you don’t want to get sued because you accidentally pushed her down some stairs. If the pushing war begins, it’s up to you to end it - put your arms around her from behind and say “truce” softly in her ear.

Foot Flirting. This works better if you are wearing sandals or flip-flops and your foot has easy access to hers. ‘Accidenlty’ touch her feet with yours and say with a grin “are you are foot-flirting with me?” jokingly. Look her deeply in the eyes while saying this. Say “let me return the favor”, and this time touch her with your toe again - If she jerks away, you still created a connection and an opener, if she doesn’t BANG! You’re in the game!

Palmistry. The oldest and most common form of Kino which your father probably practiced in his ‘playing’ days.For some reason girls can not seem to resist anything that deals with magic and destiny. I personally don’t use palmistry, just because I don’t like it, it’s personal bias really. For those that do use it I hear it’s fairly successful. Get a basic knowledge of the palm (love line, money line, etc.) and when you’re talking to a girl, just take it where you want to go. Chances are she has no clue when it comes to palmistry so anything you say is true. “Your love line seems to be a little faded. Make sure you hold her hand gently and follow the traces of her lines with your finger. Have you had a tough break-up or a particularly bad relationship in the past?” Every relationship that has ended has been a bad one or else it would’ve never ended. So it’s extremely likely she’ll say yes. And suddenly… you just read her past! Gasp!

The Protective Gesture. Better hear this from the horses mouth: “In a crowded bar, if people are walking by and pushing you, there’s a way a guy can put his arm around you — not actually touching you, but behind your back so he’s sort of keeping you from getting shoved. A man doesn’t need to pick a fight with some guy who accidentally steps on my toes, but it’s nice if he’s protective. — Sanaya, 26, Los Angeles”

Kino Hotspots
* Neck
* Lower Back
* Waist
* Hips
* Elbows
* Palms
* Cheeks
* Ear Lobes
* Between the fingers

Kino: Difference Between Getting & Not Getting

It is the saving grace for the otherwise doomed “nice guy” approach. And in some instances, being the “nice guy” together with Kino can be quiet effective. Here’s why: The success of Kino depends on depends on whether the girl perceives you and your touch as a threat to her or not. A nice guy usually just has an easier time having girls feel he is not a threat to them. Usually though, that is also his undoing, as he is consequently perceived as weak, neutral and non-sexual, all of which are major turn-offs for girls. But here is where Kino helps since the girl thinks you are safe, so touching and hugging with you is... well, also safe. However, before she knows it - touching and hugging with you moves from feeling pretty good to quite exciting to really electrifying until all that good, safe and friendly physical contact with you is going to make her wonder: "If it feels so good just to touch with him, why on earth not do more? I wonder what that would be like." So remember - Kino really is the difference between getting and not getting the girl.

Some Rules For Touching

All Kino should seem either Spontaneous or Subconscious.That means it should never seem premeditated, planned, or forced. Some helpful tips for you:

* Playful kino is always spontaneous, and being done lightly in the spirit of the moment. Sprinkle playful kino in, it’s best used as a spice in small doses.
* Do protective kino like you make it. No waffling on whether you’re going to put your arm around her. Playful kino can either be spontaneous or subconscious, but make sure you’re doing it in a masculine, protective way.
* Incidental kino is supposedly not being consciously generated (even though both you and the woman are aware of it). It’s “just happening” because you two are comfortable with each other. As such, it’s always subconscious on your part - if she breaks it off, don’t immediately scoot back in to her. Let it rest and restart it in a moment. Make sure you break off incidental kino from time to time as well, then restart it.

Lastly, never look where you touch. It “asks for permission” so to speak. Just go for it, if your hand is in the wrong place she’ll let you know.
Kino is absolutely fantastic for your game

Employing solid touching and kinesthetics will capture her mind and body. It’s especially powerful and necessary for some of the most fun, passionate girls and works well on all girls. Remember to engage in incidental kino before you go to kiss, because it’s a win/win proposition.

Wednesday

Signs your Man may be having an Affair

Few straying men come home covered in lipstick stains and reeking of another woman’s perfume. While the signs are rarely that obvious, if you’re willing to look, they’re almost always there. So how do you know whether all the Hollywood cheating scandals are making you paranoid or if your partner’s actually in the arms of another woman? Check out some changes in behavior that could mean he’s looking for love elsewhere.
 
11 Signs your Man may be having an Affair


1. Sudden Changes in His Appearance
 
If your husband starts transforming into a different man, it may be more than a mid-life crisis. “A man who drastically alters his clothing style, appearance or body shape for no apparent reason may be having an affair. Perhaps the other woman has suggested he grow a beard, wear his hair differently or use cologne. If he’s dressing differently for work, there may be a coworker he’s trying to impress.” Likewise, if your lifelong couch-potato spouse suddenly becomes a gym rat, it may not be you that he’s trying to impress. “He may be trying to look good for a new love interest or keep up physically with a younger woman. Or perhaps the other woman works or works out at the gym he’s showing a sudden interest in going to,”  
 

2. His Attitude Towards You Dramatically Changes
 
Changes in his mood can point to more than just stressful times at work. “Men often get fidgety or irritable when they’re supposed to be in two places at once. If the other woman demands more of his time, he may start arguments with you so he can storm out and rendezvous with her,”. If he’s not only picking fights, but also criticizing you for things that hadn’t bothered him before, like your appearance, eating habits or intelligence, it’s probably not about the way you chew your food or the 5 pounds you’ve gained, but really about another woman. “Cheating creates a lot of internal turmoil and tension, which gets played out between the two of you. Plus, in order to cheat on someone, you have to be focused on what you don’t like about her. By making that loud and clear, he feels more justified in cheating and less guilty,”  
 

3. He’s Become Distant
 
“Emotional distance is the number-one giveaway of infidelity, because it’s hard to be emotionally invested in two people at once and to be emotionally intimate with someone while you betray her trust. Most people simply can’t handle the guilt of cheating, so they create space. Plus, distance creates a shield, protecting him from detection—if he doesn’t say much, he’s less likely to say something incriminating,” If your spouse avoids being alone with you and your conversations become purely superficial, he could be pushing you away because he’s growing closer to someone else. “Likewise, if he holds back the warm and fuzzies (i.e. he stops saying ‘I love you,’ no longer holds your hand in public or barely hugs you anymore), he could be cutting off his feelings of affection for you, so he can focus on his new partner without feeling as guilty,”  
 

4. Guilty Behavior
 
Guilt-ridden behavior is a dead giveaway that your partner is hiding something. He may shower you with affection and attention (giving you gifts for no reason, complimenting you frequently or helping around the house more), but diamonds and doing the dishes aren’t necessarily the signs of an uncharacteristically sweet husband—they could indicate a guilty one. “When a man feels guilty, he may become unusually affectionate or attentive as a way to mask his affair or relieve some of his guilt,”. On the other hand, some men may avoid their partners when they have something to hide, no longer making eye contact or attempts to communicate. “It’s likely that he won’t hold your gaze and engage fully with you, because he’s hiding a secret and he’s afraid you’ll see through him if you really look at him,”
 
5. Secretive, Unusual or Unexplained Behavior
 
It’s not just guilty behavior that should make you worry. Anything that can be characterized as secretive, unusual or unexplained—or any behavior that has suddenly and inexplicably changed—could signify that he’s hiding something, warns Manette. “If your partner becomes elusive about his whereabouts, something’s probably going on,” Other indicators that something’s amiss? “The computer screen changing when you walk into the room, hushed telephone conversations or calls taken outside, strange body language when in the company of the new gal at work, reluctance to take you places with him and his friends, and general unexplained behavior that feels suspicious, are all clues that your partner is straying,”  
 

6. You Never See Him Anymore
 
If he’s suddenly never around, he may really be busy at work or he may be busy with someone else. While he’s likely to have a wide range of plausible excuses for his new absentee status (he’s working a lot of overtime, he’s traveling for business, he’s training for a 10K), they could just be an attempt to cover up the fact that his extracurricular activities involve another woman. “He could be spending the time away from home with her. Although the other woman usually accepts whatever fragment of time the man can give her at first, she typically begins to demand more and more of his time. Conversely, he may just not want to come home because he feels guilty,”  
 

7. He’s Frequently Unavailable or Unreachable
 
Are you suddenly finding it hard to get in touch with your significant other? Is his mobile phone turned off during times you normally can reach him, or does he claim not to have had any cell service for hours at a time? Or maybe he says he has business meetings all night or a work conference all weekend, so don’t call him, he’ll call you? if he’s frequently unavailable, it may be because he’s with someone else. “This is how he can spend time with the other woman without having to rush home. It’s his way of making sure he doesn’t have to worry about looking over his shoulder constantly and answering to you.”

 8. Your Gut Tells You Something Is Going On

If you think he’s acting strangely, hiding something or seeing someone else, don’t ignore your instincts. “A woman’s intuition is the best thing we go by in our business. She knows all of her man’s aches and pains, when he is mad, happy or lonely, and when he’s there in body but not in mind. She knows when something is not right,”. In fact, it’s your instincts that will usually help you recognize the signs of an affair. “There are almost always clues, because it’s a complicated thing—mentally, physically and emotionally—so it requires a lot of adjustments to pull off. These adjustments will appear as something different about your partner and they may be subtle. That’s why it’s best to trust your instinct that something’s off,”

 
9. He Becomes a Different Man in the Sack
 
“Both more and less interest in sex can signal infidelity,”. If he’s suddenly rebuffing your advances when he never turned you down before, he could be satisfying his sexual needs elsewhere. “While many couples experience changes in their sexual activity over time, if your spouse is never interested in having sex anymore, you should consider the possibility that he’s having an affair. His mistress may be giving him something sexually that he isn’t getting at home, or because it’s secret and new, it’s more exciting, so he puts all his energy into sex with her,”. Meanwhile, a sudden increase in his sexual appetite could also be the result of infidelity. “Engaging in sex with a new partner can rev up testosterone, increasing his overall drive,”. A third party may also be responsible for a sudden interest in experimenting sexually, 

 10. A New Woman Enters the Picture
 
If your significant other repeatedly talks about another woman you’ve never met, there’s a good chance she might be his new lover—especially if, when you question him about her, he says, “She’s just a friend,” but his enthusiasm is just a bit too much to believe. While you may assume no man would be stupid enough to actually bring up his mistress with his wife or girlfriend, experts say many men do. “Sometimes cheaters take the strategy of being half truthful, because in some ways it’s less of a heavy burden if half of the cat is out of the bag. Plus, he may be thinking about this new person so much that he can’t help talking about her,”  
 

11. He’s Overly Defensive

“Why are you asking all these questions?” “Why do you care where I was?” “I was watching the game at Mark’s. If you don’t believe me, call him!” If these defenses sound familiar, your significant other could be up to no good. “When a man becomes overly defensive in response to questions about his whereabouts or behavior, it’s a huge sign that something is not right, because otherwise, he’d laugh it off!”. Meanwhile, if out of nowhere your partner accuses you of cheating, it may be because he’s been unfaithful. “Once a man sees how easy it is for him to become involved in an outside relationship, he begins to view his partner under the same moral microscope. Accusing you of infidelity is a way to deflect his own guilt and poor behavior,”

 

One Final Caveat…

Before you start following your significant other during his lunch break or hire a divorce lawyer, please take heed: If you’ve observed any of these signs, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve got a Tiger Woods on your hands. According to the experts, these behaviors only signal infidelity if they’re a departure from the norm. If your sex life has never been booming or if he’s always been weird about his computer, he’s probably not cheating. But if your once-regular sex life has dramatically dwindled and the guy who used to live in sneakers is suddenly sporting Gucci loafers and designer suits, there might be something else going on. Just remember, while one of these signs does not
make a cheater, if you’ve witnessed a few, it’s time to have a talk. Even if he’s not having an affair, addressing issues in your relationship early on can prevent future infidelity

Sunday

Need For Sex On the Brain

Why You Need to Have Sex On the Brain?

If you usually crave things that are bad for your health, you might be surprised to find that the thing that every adult craves now and then is actually good for you. While junk food makes you gain weight, TV-watching promotes inactivity, drinking too much alcohol is bad for the liver, and gambling can be hard on the wallet, sex between two adults can be great fun and healthy too. Frequent safe sex is chalked full of psychological benefits, in addition to the physical ones.

Frequent sex helps a girl maintain her ideal body weight. Sex can also attribute to lower cholesterol counts, relief from aches and pains, and can encourage prostate and genital health. However, the psychological benefits of sex are less publicized. The major psychological health benefits of sex include stress reduction and relaxation, as well as providing a natural sleep aid to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. Sex can also help to reduce depression.

Sometimes when you’ve had a long day at the office, a crazy day with the kids, or you suffer from life’s everyday worries, the thought of having sex can be the last thing on your mind. Unfortunately, many women and some men complain that their sex drive takes a back seat when they are stressed. What they don’t know is that the one thing they are too tired to think about is actually the activity that can help the most.

Studies have shown that sex can be an effective stress-reliever. The deep breathing, the soothing touches and the release of endorphins those feel-good hormones that contribute to improved physical and psychological sensations that are caused by stress.

If you find that stress is affecting your libido, there are a variety of techniques to lighten the atmosphere and get you and your partner in a more romantic mood so that you can fully experience the psychological health benefits of sex.
• Choose the right music: Soft, romantic music can create the perfect setting for a passionate evening.
• Add soft lighting: Turn the lights out and light some candles. The ambiance created by candlelight is sure to get your mind off your worries and turn your attention to making love.
• Try aromatherapy: The sense of smell is powerful, and just like a particular smell can trigger certain memories, a certain aroma can also put you in a sensual mood. Scented candles provide a nice scent and a romantic glow. Light up your night!
Please keep in mind that individuals will not reap the psychological benefits of sex if they are irresponsible in the way they engage in intercourse. That’s because sex with multiple or random partners is not conducive to a sense of well-being. It is therefore not only the act of sex but the intimacy shared by people in love that provide so many health benefits.

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Tuesday

7 signs that you’re Whipped

7 signs that you’re whipped
Are you constantly walking around in fear that you forget to put the toilet seat down? Are you having problems sleeping because you know if you start snoring you’ll be forced to sleep on the bathroom floor? Are people constantly flipping their hands and making semi-accurate whip noises whenever you’re around? If you answered yes to any of the above there’s a good chance that you are no longer in control of the matters.

1. You have to consult with her before making plans

Your friends invited you to come over to watch the game and get excessively drunk on a Monday night. However, before you can say yes, you have to present a closing-argument-type-speech to your girlfriend asking for permission. She’ll reluctantly say yes, but you’ll be punished later when you come home to find her locking on the old chastity belt.

2. You don’t remember a time when you had friends

You have faint memories of a time when you used to have a group of friends. But the memories are so hazy you’re not even sure if these “friends” were real or part of some trippy dream you had once. Sometimes you think about going onto Facebook and checking on these “friends,” but then you remember your girlfriend wrote violent things on all your ex’s walls and then deleted the account.

3. You’ve seen a Nicholas Sparks movie

Not only did you see “Dear John,” but you paid for the tickets. In fact, you’re such a good boyfriend that you voluntarily dabbed her eyes and cleaned up her mascara as she cried. The Notebook is your go-to Friday night movie DVD and you don’t even remember a time when you didn’t know all the words to the final monologue in Nights in Rodanthe.

4. You use “we” when talking about yourself

No matter how personal of a statement you are making, the pronoun “we” is always used. We went to the bathroom after eating Mexican, we had a weird rash on our stomach, and we had really bad period cramps today. The other day you tried saying “I” and ending up choking on your own tongue.

5. You always pay

Whether you’re going out to dinner or paying for Midol cramp relief, you always pay. You’re not even sure if your girlfriend owns a wallet or has a bank account since she’s never once offered to pay for anything. In the past year she surprised you by opening up 6 different credit cards in your name and claimed that debt was your problem and she didn’t want to hear another word about it.

6. You had to ask permission to go your grandma’s funeral

She was beyond control when you asked her if you could skip Friday DVD night to go to your grandmother’s funeral. She didn’t speak to you for weeks when you asked her to come with you for emotional support. And she wouldn’t sleep with you for four months after the funeral because you so rudely asked her not to wear her black leather mini-skirt to the service.

7. You’re castrated

Your courage has left you forever. Sometimes you dream of getting it back back. But then you remember that taking them back would only inevitably lead to “stop leaving the toilet seat up” fights.

Monday

15 Things Never To Do With Your Girl

Things are going smoothly in your relationship. Heck, she even thinks you're more romantic than she is. You're doing great! So don't go and spoil it all by doing one of these 15 things you should NEVER do with your girlfriend.

Share an email

Sure, you've got nothing to hide. Yeah, you trust her and she trusts you. Doesn't matter. Girlfriends misinterpret. It's their job. And when the two of you are sharing an email address, you're just giving her an opportunity to misinterpret every waking hour of the day. She'll be fighting with you over the penis enlargement spam in no time. "Who are you trying to enlarge your penis for? You're cheating on me, aren't you?!"

Move in together

Ahh, the classic rookie mistake. Now, we're not saying you should NEVER move in with your girlfriend. If you've gone out for years and one of you spends the significant portion of their time at the other one's abode and it makes sense for your commute and the move is a step up for your living situation, then by all means... wait two months and then maybe move in. But we know you -- you're gonna be tempted to want to spend every waking moment with your girl after the 2nd glorious, sex-filled month. And that's a mistake. Rushing in to a cohabitation situation is akin to eating a cake 30 minutes before it's done -- it's going to suck and it'll leave a bad taste in your mouth.

Take out a loan

You need a chunk of change to bankroll your budding JetSki Food Delivery service (every guy's got a dream). Your girlfriend believes in your budding JetSki Food Delivery service idea and she has better credit than you so she'd like to co-sign on the loan you're going to take out with the bank. WAIT! No. Back up. This is the worst idea ever. Not only does it violate the boundary between work and personal life, it adds undue financial stress on the bond you have with your girlfriend. What if your JetSki Food Delivery service fails (it will)? Now your girlfriend owes the bank $10,000, you've got no means to pay her back and she's growing increasingly resentful of those four JetSkis you have sitting around in your garage, collecting artful dust. Even if she wants to give you all the money in the world, be a proud man and say no. Then ask her if you can talk to her father instead.

Get a dog

For a couple, a dog is, in many cases, a stand-in for a child. She'll be taking mental notes on how you treat Barney, the beloved French Bulldog, and jotting those notes down on the "Pros" and "Cons" column of the whiteboard in her head that she has dedicated to you. If that doesn't take the fun out of a shared dog, the thought of what will happen to the dog when you break up will. Poor pooch. If you want to get a dog, get one for yourself, bring him home and tell her, "Hey babe, meet my new rottweiler. His name is Ron Mexico."

Take a trip over 2 weeks

Shared vacations are awesome. Especially ones that involve beaches, comfy hotel rooms and soundproof walls. But there's a fun-to-hell threshold you cross once the two of you have been traveling for longer than 2 weeks. Then, the stress of being in a strange place gets compounded by the fact that you have no time to yourself. Pile on top of that being confined in small rooms (even the largest hotel room can't compare to your man cave) and having to see the same person literally every second of the day for two weeks (that's 1,209,600 seconds spent together). When it comes to a relaxing shared vacation together... quit while you're ahead.

Work together

This should be a no-brainer -- you already hate and resent all the people you work with, so why go and add your girlfriend to that list? You'll be tempted to do one off projects with her (maybe she's a graphic designer and you need designs for the hood of your rad new Trans Am), but no matter how small the project, working with your girlfriend in a professional capacity is like sticking your hand in a bee's nest -- that thing that used to give you honey is now sending you into anaphylactic shock.

Renovate a house (or anything)

If you're renovating a house in general, you're braver than us. But if you're renovating a house with your girlfriend, you're a brave man with a relationship death wish. Girls aren't good at construction, carpentry, plumbing, painting walls, moving furniture or even unpacking boxes. This is not a slight -- girls will happily admit that they are not suited for home renovations other than some sort of order-giving capacity. And you don't need someone barking, "No, move it three inches!" while you're in the middle of lugging a refrigerator up three flights of stairs (because, sometimes you want a cold brew in the attic... duh). Rope a buddy into helping you and let her go to the day spa. Trust us.

Critique each other's work

It doesn't matter what you do -- artist, writer, computer programmer, amateur bull rider -- don't invite her to critique your stuff. Even if what she has to say is positive, she's probably going to highlight something you hate. And same goes for you -- don't tell her how you feel about her vampire-inspired latin sonnets. Even if she insists, tell her "Made Man said no." She'll understand.

Cook for more than 5 people

A surefire way to get into a woman's pants is to cook for her. It makes perfect sense -- the meal's gonna be decent, unless you really, really suck; she's going to be impressed with your skills; she'll be happy to be waited on and served and most importantly, your kitchen is right near your bedroom. And if she wants to help out... or hell, even take the lead on the meal, it's still gonna be great and you're still gonna get laid. Invite a few friends over and if they're mildly impressed, you're in! So don't go and spoil that surefire sex switch by agreeing to cook together for a large group of people. If you've ever worked in a restaurant during the dinner rush, you'll instantly know what we're talking about -- there will be gross food flying everywhere, the two of you will be insulting each other, swearing up a blue streak that would make Howard Stern blush and you'll be so overwhelmed neither of you will have a chance to eat. Suddenly, your surefire way to her heart has heartburn. Just hire a catering crew instead. Let them fight it out.

Take a class

This rule applies to the most official of classes (college, graduate etc.) all the way to the least official (a knitting circle or book club). One person will work harder than the other one and it's going to be annoying for the both of you. Just let her take her class and come home and regale you with tales of the lazy, idiot students she has to deal with. Don't volunteer to become one of them.

Make each other homemade gifts

Yes, your mom loved your hand-drawn Christmas card. Your girlfriend's not your mom. She wants a necklace, or a cute dress... heck, even a pair of naughty underwear. Just don't make her something. That doesn't mean she's superficial. You wouldn't want her to sculpt you an ashtray for your birthday either.

Play golf, bowling or video games

It's cute that your girl has an interest in sports. And thank goodness she stays active... three laps a day keeps the fat rolls away. But no matter what, always avoid the temptation to take her golfing or bowling. Those two "sports" are slow paced enough that she could be just as good as you. Or better. And that will cause problems. And if she's terrible at either, she'll be bored out of her skull. The same rule applies to video games... she'll either whoop your butt and leave you bitter and embarrassed or she'll be whining for the whole thing to be over with.

Have a threesome

Avoid having a threesome with your girlfriend at all costs. Well, avoid it unless you enjoy watching a loving relationship devolve into a seedy, exploitative mess. Or if you really want to get rid of her in a fun, creative way! [Ed. Note: Debatable]

Have kids

Don't turn your hot mama into your baby mama. That should go without saying, but for those few (idiots) on the fence, just know that children, in addition to being the ultimate time and money suck, also douse water over any romantic flame your relationship may've had.

Get married

The best way to kill a perfectly good relationship is to go and get married. It's like they say -- don't fix what aint broken. If you absolutely HAVE to get married, then get married to a stranger and keep your girlfriend around on the side. WE'RE KIDDING, we're kidding! Sort of.
courtesy:mademan

Saturday

10 Most Dangerous Mistakes That Drive Women Away

Even the best lovers are often guilty of mistakes in the bedroom... often WITHOUT ever knowing it.

It's just a fact of life.

But that doesn't mean that YOU have to make the most common mistakes in bed... and... do INSTEAD to drive your woman WILD with pleasure. Avoid these 10 mistakes and you'll have better sex the very NEXT time you make love... guaranteed...

Do You Make These 10 Mistakes That Drive Women Away?

Mistake 1. Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn't
You may think that your lover is having multiple orgasms (or even AN orgasm) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises, get really wet, and even TELL YOU she is cumming. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on faking orgasms. I'm not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking orgasms EVERY TIME but... chances are there have been a few episodes of love making where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to cum. It doesn't mean you are awful in bed; just that being a mindblowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl orgasms (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You're one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you're not, it is crucial that you learn how...

Mistake #2) Not Giving Her a Variety of Sexual Experiences
A lot of guys who are new to sex - or are used to having sex with the same woman - tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sexual EXPERIENCES.

You might think that changing positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting is a different type of sex. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love.

If you are NOT talking during sex and creating a strong emotional experience for her she CAN'T be totally fulfilled. Women want strong emotional experiences in bed.

Let's look at an example.

Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. It is why when women cheat it is often with a "bad boy." However, you don't need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Just be a bad boy yourself by spanking her, talking dirty, and giving it to her good!

Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels or current tv shows (Nip Tuck) they read with that long-haired douchebag on a horse (aka Fabio) on the cover.

Now, I'm not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse... but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

The skinny is this:

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences... and you can give them all to her YOURSELF... but you have to mix it up!

Mistake #3) Forgetting To Be A MAN
Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL.

That said, she wants YOU to call the shots!

Yes you read that right. Your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and do her doggystyle without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate.

Sure, it's ok to ask her if she is enjoying something... but this is mostly reserved to specific technique when you are "going down". Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don't get me wrong - you are not making her a slave here but rather leading with authority and masculine strength. Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think she is just uptight and her not being sexual if she doesn't want to do something... when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with your strength. You'll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Mistake #4) Thinking Sex Isn't That Important To Her
If you want to know how much women LOVE sex... just think about how loudly they scream in the bedroom when they are getting it good! You won't ever hear a guy screaming like that!

You might THINK that your sex drive is much higher than your girls because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But...

As hard as it is to swallow, recognize that if your girl doesn't want to have sex it is NOT because she doesn't want to. Unfortunately, it's probably because you just aren't getting her off.

Fortunately this is an easy fix, and in a moment we'll talk about how to do it...

Mistake #5) Being Silent/Emotionless in Bed
You may think that it is "cheesy" or "creepy" to talk romantically or dirty in bed. (you may think its weird to talk at all in bed) However, women HATE silent, mechanical sex. Why?

Let's hit this again my friend: Women THRIVE one emotion.

Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT at giving your girl STRONG EMOTIONS in bed.

And strong emotions = STRONG ORGASMS.

Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that get your girl off. The most POWERFUL FEMALE ORGASMS are triggered by her mind, not by her physical body. Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having sex and your girl will experience the strongest orgasms of her life.

Mistake #6) Trading Dinners/Flowers/etc To Get Sex From Her
Many men mistakenly think that women aren't interested in sex (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking) and that they have to "trade something" with their girl for sex. This is why you see so many guys trying to have sex with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts. While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SEX. When you have to trade something to get sex from your girl realize that this is PROOF that you are not good enough in bed. It is proof that she does not like sex with you since in order to DO IT you have to give her something in exchange.

When you are sexually satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for sex but your girl will often sponateously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating sex constantly. Just wait and see!

Mistake #7) Not Giving Her Enough "Foreplay"
If you still think of "foreplay" as the activity before sex you need a quick mindset adjustment to change how much time you spend on foreplay.

Here's a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the sex. NOT as a separate thing!

Here's why:

While a man is not capable of having a foreplay orgasm AND another orgasm right away when he penetrates his girl, WOMEN CAN!

Imagine if you could have orgasms during foreplay AND never lose your erection even the slightest and keep having orgasms as you penetrated your girl. You'd want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well your girl CAN have foreplay orgasms AND penetration orgasms so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as penetration and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the penetration better when you are finally inside of her.

Mistake #8) Not Lasting Long Enough
This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it.

But while all guys know they need to last long... they don't necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to hundreds of women about the subject, I've discovered that if you can last at least 10 minutes, most women will be plenty happy with that.

Sure, they might be even happier if you are up for a "round 2" after a break in the action... but if you can last for 10 minutes in the first round, then trust me, you are fine!

Mistake #9) Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior
It's no secret that women are a LOT moodier than us men.

But if you're in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time... this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.

FACT.

As we talked about before... while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, they do love and NEED sex just as much!

But here's the thing... if you're not giving her orgasms... then sex does her no good!

Can you imagine jerking off but you could NEVER orgasm? You'd begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you'd get so frustrated by the inabiliity to "finish" that it was just easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!

Sooo...

If you can't give her orgasms why WOULD she want to have sex with you?

The answer:

She won't.

If your girl is not wanting to have sex with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her.

In the beggining, she may have tolerated sex because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and sex isn't satisfying for her it is more fulfilling to get herself off when you're not around. This leads to only having sex with you on special occasions... or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs it's time to step up your sex game NOW before the sex drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you'll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in bed, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis... but SHE'LL start initiating sex with YOU!

A close friend of mine who is some what of a love-making expert himself told me something that I didnt' believe at the time... but I now KNOW to be 100% true:

IF YOU ARE GIVING HER THE BEST OF HER LIFE SHE WON'T CARE IF YOU ARE HOMELESS LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX... AS LONG AS YOU CAN HAVE SEX IN IT!

When I heard this I thought he was totally full of it... but as my own lovemaking skills improved and then I heard about the success other guys were having, I realized this is completely true. Women are biologically "made" to be child bearers and select the highest value man to have a child with. Don't you think that the ability to give amazing sex is one of the highest values a man can have? Especially since so few men actually are REALLY GOOD.

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting sex, or acting "distant" in some way it is time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your sexual ability because the real culprit is inadequate sexual pleasure.

Mistake #10) Not Getting Help
Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey not a destination. Top athletes don't all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. Millionaire business men don't suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep shuttling cash into their pockets. And guess what... sex is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can't ever be blinded by sexual arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new tricks or tips to get you to the next level.

Thursday

Women get wilder in the bedroom


Women gets wild in BedroomA section of British women are having far wilder sex than they did a year ago and 76 percent of women contacted in a survey admitted using pornography.
The survey published by the Sun, however, shows that three quarters of women were having less sex than a year back. But when they made love it was far wilder.
Around 76 percent of women admitted to using pornography – a ten percent rise on the two-thirds who admitted to watching pornography with their partners in a survey last year.
The survey of 4,200 women also revealed four in five women like to dress up for their other halves and indulge in role play, the media report said.
The most popular outfit is of a French maid that is used by 42 percent, followed by a nurse’s outfit selected by a quarter of women. Sixteen percent of the couples preferred policewomen’s uniforms.
Siobhan Freegard, the founder of Netmums, said that women “have busy family lives and careers to juggle. So while they might not be having as much sex as they’d like, they want to ensure they make the most of the precious time they do get.
“Our survey shows they are taking control in the bedroom.” “They know what to do to get their sex lives back on track and are not afraid to experiment and introduce new methods to spice things up,” she was quoted as saying.
Online pornography is a popular format and is watched by 61 percent of the couples. More than half of the women surveyed used sex toys in the bedroom.
Article from –>> lifestyle news relationships

Tuesday

The Wedding Night

Just you two – in private – and newlywed.

Suddenly it is all over and it feels somewhat unreal. But you are married to each other.
Only your wedding night remains! The wedding suite is booked. Entering a charming hotel majestically in your wedding gowns is an opportunity in life you will never forget.

Book your wedding room as soon as possible, especially if you want a special hotel and the luxury suite. Remember to mention that it is your wedding night or honeymoon. The hotel may have some romance package, such as chilled champagne and flowers.

Find out the location of your room, that fits you best.

The bed – nothing but a king-size bed will do your first night as a married couple. If you can afford it, book a room with a Jacuzzi-jet bathtub to relax in after your celebration.

Remember to pack clothes for the day after, and perhaps also a morning gift for your spouse.

Monday

7 Things Magazines Teach Women About Men !

Women’s magazines continue to be wonderful publications full of great tips, provocative articles, and made-up sex positions that could cripple the most flexible woman. Their articles about dealing with men, written by a 7th grade girl with raging hormones, dispense phenomenal advice for how to snag a man, satisfy him in bed, and make him fall in love with you.
And by phenomenal I mean, what are they talking about? Human men? If women actually took this advice we would repel all men and turn into cat ladies before we turned 30.
 
We Can Trick You Into Relationships
According to these magazines all men are commitment phobic and would prefer getting monthly back waxes over talking about “relationships.”
As women its our job to convince you through underhanded planning and deceitful activities that you actually do want to be our boyfriend.
If everything goes according to the magazine’s plan, we’ll be married with 6 kids without ever having to have the “where is this relationship going” talk.

You’re Intimidated By Our Success
The articles sends out all kinds of confusing signals about how we’re supposed to act around you. On on hand you really like us, on the other hand you’re scared shitless we’re going to out-do you. We should have a good job, but not better than yours.
We should be funny, but under no circumstance funnier than you. And finally we should be smart, but always let you feel like you’re teaching us something. So basically we should be lower-level executives who can tell a decent knock-knock joke while simultaneously asking you to explain the joke’s punch line to us.

You Like Us Natural AND With Make-up
Every other week these magazines take a poll asking men if they like women wearing make-up or going natural.
And in every other survey the results change. So we don’t know if we should burn all our mascara in a giant go-natural-bonfire or run out to Costco and buy a year’s supply of neon blue eyeshadow. We’re stuck leaving half our face completely make-up free and doing the other half of our face up like a drag queen in training.

We Should Like Sports, But Not More Than You
These magazines claims all men love sports and they love a girl who gets sports. However men are extremely turned off by women yelling at the players on TV louder than they can. It’s basically ideal if we show up to watch the game wearing a sexy jersey, agree with you every time you get mad about a play, and know the difference between footballs, basketballs, and blue balls.

Body Language is a Science
Magazines loves consulting body language experts to analyze a couple’s relationship simply by their stance.
On one hand, it’s truly amazing people can get paid to say things like “her arm is at a right angle which means she wants him to mow the lawn tomorrow.” On the other hand, it’s a less legitimate theory than creationism. Sure if a girl is slapping a guy, I’ll buy that her body language is saying she’s not happy with him. But it’s insane for women to start looking at the way their boyfriend hugs them to determine if he’s feeling confident in his bedroom skills.

You Will Have Sex Anywhere, Anytime, With Anyone
These magazines want us to believe that while we have a fully functioning brain that’s capable of thinking about a span of different topics throughout the day, men can’t focus on anything for more than 2 seconds without thinking about sex.
In fact this problem is so bad that it’s becoming a routine part of marriage for men to sleep with 17 assorted women/anything-with-holes and then go to sex rehab.

You’re Craving Acrobatic Sex
Magazines claims that your boyfriends are bored in bed and it’s your responsibility to turn up the heat by trying a few new tricks in bed. And by tricks they mean pulling out your Cirque du Soleil skills and doing moves on men calling things like the “singing octopus” and the “bipolar monkey.”

Note to magazine editors: Try writing about sex positions that already exist rather than just pairing up random animals and adjectives and praying the readers knows how to fill in the blanks.
(sent by Santababy)